Whatever one’s goals may be, a primary wish and aspiration of everyone is to be happy. No matter what your position or condition in life is, if you are happy, then all else is tolerable. The problem is that in most cases one’s happiness is almost entirely dependent on having circumstances suit one’s preferences. We almost invariably speak of happiness in terms of what makes us happy. It may be something as simple as looking at the stars in the sky, playing with our pet, a loving smile, or an affectionate touch. Even just the memory of such things may bring a sense of joy or happiness. But if we remember the simple pleasures of life which are no longer available to us, then the thought of these things usually causes us pain. This means that if something that once brought us happiness is no longer available to us in the way that it was when happiness was felt, the thought of that person or thing often brings sadness, anger, or grief. By this we see that it is not really a person or thing that makes us happy, but rather, it is when those people or circumstances match up to our expectations that they appear to make us happy. This begs the question: Is it really the things that make us happy or is it the way we look at them?
...in the state of meditation, a feeling of ease and being unaffected by the circumstances, thoughts, and feelings is experienced ~ this has been borne out by the scientific research showing increased alpha and theta brain waves. We have also determined that this condition is the nature of the experience that is discovered when the experiencer becomes disentangled from thoughts and feelings. This state of ease is internal happiness, which emerges when there is an absence of reliance on external circumstances to bring about the feeling of happiness. In this way, meditation practice taps into the reservoir of internal happiness.
The more internal happiness is accessed through meditation, in turn, the more it is maintained when interacting in one’s daily life and facing all sorts of eventualities. Equanimity becomes increasingly stable, even when circumstances are counter to one’s preconceived ideas of how things should be. How things should be is very subjective, and often, a selfish view of matters. With increased internal happiness, one’s perspective widens and what is for the greater good is more clearly seen and wished for. The greater the degree of internal happiness, the less neediness is found in that individual, which translates as enhanced capacity to give of oneself.
When I speak of reduced neediness, it means that the desperation created by the feeling that one cannot survive without satisfaction of all or any of one’s needs is reduced by increased internal happiness. You must have observed in your life, that when you feel least needy, that is when you are most capable, powerful, influential, and effective… A quality of internal happiness is that it is a sense of needlessness that includes greater consideration of others ~ a comprehensive view and wish for what would be best for all involved…
Our experiencer is our true being which does not change and is the same in everyone; therefore, there is only one being. Forms, thoughts, and feelings are like bubbles in water that appear for a short period and then dissolve back into their source ~ water. All is contained in the one being, which means, all the changing forms ~ matter and thought ~ are aspects of the one absolute being. The field of matter and the field of thought both exist within the field of absolute being and are its aspects, or creations.
The experiencer is not separate from us; rather, it is our essential nature. A truly enlightened person is one who realizes and remains aware of the fact that they are the unchanging watcher/observer and all time and creation exists within them. Time is merely relative to the interaction of the temporary forms, but for the experiencer/being, there is only one absolute being that does not exist within the realm of time ~ time exists in it. If you have grasped that you are the one, eternal being and all exists in you, then your enlightenment has just begun.
Rakesh Aanand/Richard Tunis has engaged in forty years of research and personal experience in meditation, and has taught the science and practice of meditation in Canada, India, and Japan. Find him here: www.thehandbookofmeditation.com